MARRIAGE; It Should Be a Permanent Bond.
Judging by the conclusion of many movies, marriage is a desirable goal. Often, the man and the woman finally gets together, get married, and live “happily ever after,” in films, that is usually the end of the story. In reality, the wedding is, not the end, but the beginning of a new life together. And hopefully, as Ecclesiastes 7:8 says, “Better is the end afterward of a matter than its beginning.”
A permanent Bond:
Farsightedness is needed. A marriage must have a solid foundation if it is to last and be satisfying. Otherwise, the stress experienced after the wedding can be much greater than the stress before it. One should not enter marriage thinking; ‘if it doesn’t work out, I can always divorce.’ Marriage is to be viewed as a permanent bond.
After the wedding day:
It has been said that in the life of a man, marriage is second in importance only to his or her dedication to God. The latter binds one to the creator forever, and baptism makes that publicly manifest. Marriage is the public declaration of commitment to another person-forever. It is unthinkable either to dedicate oneself to God or forge a marriage bond while having serious reservations. Therefore, those contemplating marriage do well to examine carefully the prospective mate’s beliefs, goals, attitudes, and disposition.
In preparing for the wedding, kindness, thoughtfulness, and the spirit of cooperation are important. Such qualities are even more important afterward in making the marriage a success. The newlyweds are in love, but after marriage it has to be remembered that on a daily basis, love “does not look for its own interest.” With an abiding love, such qualities as long-suffering, kindness, goodness, mildness, and self control-fruitage of God’s spirit- will be easier to demonstrate. These qualities are necessary for a successful marriage.
The difficult part is continuing to manifest such qualities after the wedding day. However, the secret to success in manifesting such good qualities is this: love the person you married, and be willing to make sacrifices. A married person’s closest neighbour is his or her marriage partner, for nothing on earth can unite two individuals as marriage can.
However, a mere physical union in itself cannot guarantee emotional harmony. The union of two bodies is not always the union of two minds. For the sexual union to give maximum satisfaction, there also has to be the second-union of hearts and intentions. More often than not, making sacrifices for the other person is the price that needs to be paid to make marriage a success. Who should make the sacrifices? The husband? The wife?
Lastly, although the institution of marriage has suffered attack in recent years, in the long run, marriage will survive because it was instituted by God and everything he ordains is “very good.” It will not become outdated. And it can be successful, especially among those who respect and uphold it properly. But the challenge is: will the two individuals hold true to the promise they made on the wedding day to love and to cherish each other? That can certainly be a challenge, and you may have to struggle to come off victorious. But the results will be worth the effort!